What to do When You Lose Your Cool

Does this sound familiar? Parent: “You’re grounded and I’m taking away your phone.” Teen: “That’s ridiculous.” Parent: “Maybe you’ll think next time before doing something so stupid!” Teen: “Maybe you’ll learn how to stop being a controlling psycho.” Parent: “You really are a spoiled brat!” Teen: “You’re a terrible parent, that’s why my friends don’t…

5 Tips to Help Your Teen “Grow Up”

You may not be surprised to hear me tell you that a lot of teens today are taking longer to “grow up”. This despite the fact that today’s teens are highly intelligent, conscientious, capable and even eager to take on more responsibility. Yes, even yours.  But when a 15 year-old can’t do her own laundry,…

Finding the Opportunities in Adolescence

What does adolescence really mean, anyways? Do you know? To be honest, I didn’t always have a clear idea. I would often think of it synonymously with “the teen years.” When you think of this period, what comes to mind? How many negative adjectives are popping up right now? Most people seem to describe this…

How To Coparent More Effectively

Co-parenting today is a lot different than it used to be. It’s harder, in part, because it comes without a clear template to follow. The days of nuclear families with clearly defined parental roles and blind deference from kids are long gone. Effective co-parenting requires better communication and more of it. Teens in particular also…

The Number One Way To Influence Your Teen

Have you ever wondered about that visceral reaction we sometimes get from watching sports or our favorite show? Have you ever found yourself reaching for a drink of water immediately after observing someone else do the same? Experiences like this are partially explained by clusters of cells in our brain called mirror neurons. Our brain…

The Perils of Privileged Teens

Teens from upper middle class and affluent homes are struggling with depression, anxiety and substance abuse at higher rates than teens from the general population. The data that supports this is consistent with what we see in our office on a daily basis. These otherwise charming, bright and likeable teens are in crisis on the…