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Some great books and blogs to check out over the summer.

133611-20140605As another school year ends with summer break looming, how are you feeling? Some parents I’ve talked to are looking forward to it, others not so much. I’ll tell you why I think summer is a great time to connect and grow as a family. I’ve also got some good new resources to share with you. Read More

The Perils of Privileged Kids

112104-20140416Teens from upper middle class and affluent homes are struggling with depression, anxiety and substance abuse at higher rates than teens from the general population.

The data that supports this is consistent with what we see in our office on a daily basis. These otherwise charming, bright and likeable teens are in crisis on the inside while simultaneously glowing to the outside world. On the surface, this doesn’t make sense. Read More

Why Friends are so Important for Teens

Students Sitting on StepsGetting pushed away to spend more time with friends can feel sad and disappointing, especially with young teens. As they get older, this disappointment can turn into a lot of fear and anxiety. We’ve all heard plenty of stories in the news and from others about the bad things that can come from peer pressure. Some of these concerns are valid, but overall, peers and friendships are an essential ingredient to healthy and happy adolescent development. Read More

Couples: How to Keep a Fire from Turning into an Inferno

MP900202218The good news first. Arguing and conflict in a relationship is normal and can even be a sign of health! Now the bad news. Unfortunately, many of us experience conflict in our relationship as a demoralizing and overwhelming experience that progressively tears at the fabric of our connection. The typical response for most couples struggling with this is to either check out emotionally or overreact to small things regularly. Read More

5 Tips to Help Your Teen “Grow Up”

228204-20140122You may not be surprised to hear me tell you that a lot of teens today are taking longer to “grow up”. This despite the fact that today’s teens are highly intelligent, conscientious, capable and even eager to take on more responsibility. Yes, even yours.  But when a 15 year-old can’t do her own laundry, a 16 year-old can’t get himself up in the morning, a 17 year-old blames the teacher for a bad grade, an 18 year-old can’t schedule and keep his own appointments, something’s wrong. These are teens that are clearly not prepared for the adult world. Increasingly, I’m seeing teens who did very well in high school, back at home before the end of their first year of college. These young adults are struggling along with their parents to figure out what went wrong. Read More

5 Tips to Help Your Teen Open Up

photo_46730_20110619One of the most frustrating experiences we hear from parents with teens is their inability to get their teens to open up or talk with them about anything that doesn’t involve asking for money or a ride somewhere. Here are 5 tips that will help your teen open up with you. Read More

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